Saturday, May 16, 2015

What's With The Drama With Marriage!

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Karly and DJ welcome DJ's husband into the studio. They talk about marriage from a personal and academic perspective. Many, many nuggets of wisdom in this episode, with lots of good humor.

Sunday, April 26, 2015

Online Dating For Those Single And Over 40

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This episode is all about online dating-- the pros, the cons; the dos, the don'ts; the laughs and the cries.  Our guest shares her online dating experiences and offers some great advice.  We also took to the online dating sites ourselves to see what was behind the curtain, so to speak, and what we found... was... uhm...surprising.  

In no particular order, here are links to various dating sites and apps.  On the show we talked about what we learned when we visited some of these sites, including --you won't believe this--  Beautiful and Darwin!

Here are some other reviews of online dating websites:

Monday, April 6, 2015

Unsung Women in History

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 In recognition of Women's History Month, Karly and DJ share the stories of some women who were overlooked in history.

Monday, February 2, 2015

The Common Core Educational Standards

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Teachers, politicians and even comedians are talking about the Common Core!  What is with the drama? We join the debate and share what we've learned about the Common Core Standards on this fun and--dare we say it-- educational episode.

A Google search of the "pros and cons of the common core" provides a ton of links but you have to wade through a lot of stuff to get to the ... ahem... core of the matter.  [We can't resist!]   After reading several articles and visiting bunches of websites, we were happy to realize there is some good and reliable information out there that fairly discusses the benefits and drawbacks of the Common Core Standards.  Some of the resources we consulted in putting this episode together are:

Thinking About the Common Core Standards from 
Common Core State Standards Initiative from 
The Common Core FAQs from

And these two articles from The Washington Post offering competing assessments of the Common Core Standards:
Common Core Critics Offer Too Little Too Late
Everything You Need to Know 

There is so much debate about the Common Core, it seems like the news cycle is  filled with stories of states reconsidering their decisions about  the Common Core.  Here is a map that we think gives the current status as to which states and territories have adopted the Common Core standards.  The website for this map is  and on that page the map is interactive and provides some details about each state.   

If you are like us and wonder what all the fuss is about, then you'll appreciate this episode.  We debunk the myths and engage in good discussion about educational standards and testing.  We'd love for you to join our conversation and share your thoughts about the Common Core Standards.  Leave a comment here or on our Facebook page.

Thanks for listening! 

Monday, January 12, 2015

Golden Globes 2015

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The dresses, the speeches, and the hostesses… It’s got to be the Golden Globes.

Sunday, January 11, 2015

Pirate Saga Final

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A pirate, a hostage, and a feisty duo... who knew domain names could be so exciting? We're back! Listen to Karly and DJ tell the saga of the pirate who abducted their domain name.

Friday, October 3, 2014

Over 40 and Dating: An Interview With Heidi Clements

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We interview Heidi Clements, author and producer/writer on ABC Family's hit sitcom, Baby Daddy. A riotous discussion about dating over 40 ensues. NOTE: This discussion is PG-13.


Friday, September 12, 2014

ABC 123 Homeschooling

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On this episode, we talk to homeschooling mom, Cristie Cerniglia.   While homeschooling is the topic, the lessons we learn are all about life.  

"Give kids a love for learning"

Wife of 20 years, Mother of 4, 
Homeschooler and Speaker
Taking A Leap Of Faith

Cristie Cerniglia

A glance of
"Cerniglia Academy"

Sunday, August 24, 2014

Disney Channel -- We Know What You Watched This Summer

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After watching hours of Disney Channel television with our daughters, we can honestly say to them:  We know what you watched this summer... and it was not all good!  On this episode, we share with you which Disney Channel shows are awarded WWTD's seal of approval:  Green Lips. And which shows get the 'proceed with caution sticker,' Yellow Lips, and finally the show that gets Red Lips-- meaning we don't let our children watch this show on Disney Channel!  Listen to the show to find out why!  

Austin & Ally                 Green Lips
Dog With a Blog            Green Lips
Girl Meets World           Green Lips
Gravity Falls                   Red Lips
I Didn't Do It                  Yellow Lips
Jesse                              Green Lips (Green Lips minus from DJ)
Lab Rats                        Green Lips
Liv & Maddie                Green Lips
Phineas & Ferb              Green Lips
Wander Over Yonder    Green Li;ps Minus 

Also, on this episode we have a little fun remembering some of the shows we grew up with and share our favorites!   

Karly's Favorite Classics:
Brady Bunch
The Cosby Show
The Courtship of Eddy's Father
Good Times

DJ's Favorite Classics:
Alias Smith & Jones
Family Affair
Little House on the Prairie
Star Trek

Friday, July 18, 2014

Meet Me In St. Louis-- Vacation Travels

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Surprising walk studded with
 Stars from St. Louis
Botanical Gardens looked
like a different country 

We played a little game on Facebook asking friends to guess where WWTD went on vacation as a teaser for this week's show. Would you have known it was St. Louis from these photos?

Meet Me In St. Louis-- Vacation Travels... According to Karly

The following photo gallery highlights our latest podcast on our Summer season travel…to St. Louis!

The St. Louis Arch

A view of the MetroLink
MoonRise Hotel… a contemporary feel
and customer service that you will appreciate. 

Worry set in during our first 30 minutes touring the zoo.  Take a look at the following photos and see if you can determine why.

But things changed… 
Gardening Anyone?

The Botanical Gardens were stunning and the children's area offered boundless opportunities for play.  Sculptures, ponds, lush areas… this is a must see.
Mr. Dred Scott fought for his families
freedom; a fight that spanned 11 years before
freedom was granted.
The old courthouse held one of the countries
most important cases: Dred Scott v. Sandford

 What made this adventure even more special was sharing the time with dear friends.  

Meet Me In St. Louis-- Vacation Travels... According to DJ

Why I May Never Again Help An Elderly Person

On this year’s Independence Day my husband surprised me and our eight year old daughter with a canoe trip.  When I came into the kitchen that morning he announced triumphantly that he had made 4th of July plans for us and wanted to keep the plans secret until we arrived.  OK.  I don’t like surprises from my husband because the surprise almost always reflects his idea of a good thing and not mine.  For instance, when my then boyfriend-now-husband surprised me with a marriage proposal in college, he accosted me between classes during finals week DRESSED AS A GORILLA.  Here is the picture to prove it.

We went to a friend's studio to have photo taken right after the proposal.

I have no particular affinity for gorillas; he on the other hand, has watched, many times over, all media with the words “planet” and “apes” in the title.  For my fortieth birthday, my husband paid money to have Lou Ferrigno surprise me with a voicemail message wishing me “Happy Birthday.”  Yep, you can do that.  I did not know you could do that because I have no interest in Lou Ferrigno, but my husband is a huge fan of all things 1980s, including most importantly The Incredible Hulk television show.
The voice inside my head warned quietly, “Don’tcha lettem surprise ya… don’tcha lettem surprise ya… don’tcha lettem surprise ya…” Against the advice of my inner voice, I allowed my husband to surprise me on the condition that he provide some information before we left the house.

What do I need to wear?  "What you are wearing is fine,” which was my standard mom wear: capri pants, T-shirt, socks and tennis shoes. 

How long will we be there?  "At least half a day, but we could choose to stay longer," he said with a conspiratorial smile.

What are we doing for food?  "Picnic and snacks. Oh,” he said, “we are taking Buddy, too.  So we need to pack him some snacks.”  

This gives me hope that the surprise will be something I like because taking our dog in the car is totally something I love to do and something my husband hates to do.

When we arrive at the outpost  for canoe trips down the creek, I am sowell … surprised and happy!  As you may have gathered, my husband is more of a stay in the house organizing comics kind of guy, rather than an outdoorsy, adventure kind of guy.   But he is strong and capable, and I am an active person—which is code for I work-out, but I could eat a little less.  In my mind I see us paddling easily down the creek, stopping for a picnic, listening to nature, watching wildlife, letting our dog and child wander the banks of the creek.  

My excitement only dims a bit when I notice the other people waiting with us wearing swimsuits and what I call adventurer sandals-- thick soles, strong straps, lots of places to tighten or loosen the shoe to make it fit just right.  They are definitely not wearing capris pants with tennis shoes and socks.   Also, the men are very tall, very tanned, and have very white teeth.  The women too are tanned, and are strong, and curvy and wearing patriotic bikinis.   Unlike me, they are not wearing a gigantic hat for protection from the sun and skin cancer.  
Some of the canoe trip is how I imagined.  We do stop for a picnic lunch and allow our daughter and dog to investigate the creek banks.  We don’t see a lot of wildlife because the swimsuit and sandals crew are way ahead of us laughing and talking loudly. The water level is lower than usual we’re told, so while we can sometimes just drift down the creek, we mostly alternate between paddling hard and getting out of the boat  to push it over rocks.  I am totally exhilarated by the experience.  My husband and I create a system of paddling.  I do most of the paddling until I complain that he needs to help, he then helps and we zoom down the creek.  We practice switching sides with the paddle.   I start to feel kind of cool.  It is not as easy as I thought, but I am feeling strong and impressed that we are doing it.

Then… we lost control of the canoe.  We came into a sharp bend too fast, hit the bank, the canoe flipped, and we were all tossed out of the boat.  My husband, me, my daughter, our dog and all of our food.  This part of the creek was not shallow.  It was actually almost over my head, (don’t worry too much we were all wearing life jackets, except our dog).  I immediately lifted my daughter out of the water onto my waist, who was stunned at first, then she began to laugh and then shouted— “where’s Buddy, where’s Buddy!”  We looked around.  "Dogs are natural swimmers" I reassured her, and I was right—he was swimming toward the shallow part of the creek.  My husband was not hurt.  He even saved the bag with our cell phones.

I tried carrying our daughter to the bank where Buddy was so that she would be safe and I could help my husband with the canoe, but before I even took a step I fell, almost on top of my daughter.  I had to half-carry, half-push her to the more shallow part of the creek where she was able to walk out onto the bank.  The current was strong swirling between my legs.  I could not lift my feet because my tennis shoes were like buckets full of water. 

Fortunately the swimsuit and adventure sandals crew had taken a break just near where we capsized.  They helped my husband drag the canoe onto the bank and gathered all of our belongings.  By helping, I mean they did it while my husband watched.   In the meantime, I was trapped in water up to my knees.  If I tried to take a step, I'd fall forward onto the sharp rocks beneath the water.  For no good reason I can think of, I announced to the crowd helping, “I just keep falling.” 

That’s when “He” came over.  He was one of the swimsuit/sandals crew.  I guessed him at about 24 years old; he was handsome in a Greek god kind of way: dark hair, wide smile, and very fit.  He walked toward me through the rough current with ease.    I, on the other hand, was the very definition of awkward.  I had adopted a wide sumo wrestler stance to withstand the pull of the current. My clothes were wet and heavy.  My glasses were covered in water spots and my hair was dripping in my face.
“Let me help you” he said in a tone I immediately recognized as the tone “young people” use only when talking to an elderly person, a tone meant to comfort the helpless and to let them know you are a good person who always gives up your seat to an older person, who helps an elderly woman hold the elevator door and get something heavy off a shelf in the supermarket.  I know that tone because I have used it many times with strangers and friends who are much older than me.  “He” thinks I am old. 
I wish I had been able to say, “Thanks, but I got this.”  Just minutes earlier I did have it; I had felt strong and capable.  I hadn’t felt old in any way.  Now I was stuck.  I didn’t even have the strength to cross to the bank.    
He took my arm with both hands, one hand just above the wrist, the other at the elbow.   He was a boy scout earning his “help an elderly person cross the street” badge. I felt foolish.

Standing on the bank waiting for everything to be put back into the canoe, I did what I usually do in uncomfortable social situations: worried.  Why was I so bothered that this guy had come to assist me?  I obviously needed it.  I think it was because he reminded me I was getting older.  I used to be like him and now I was not.    Ok, I was never actually like him or any of the bikini and sandals crew; I was never tanned, beautiful, and strong, but I had been their age once, where I thought my life would go on forever; I did not fear disease and I did not need yearly doctor’s visits.  I had been young enough both to sleep through the night and to stay up all night.  I still remember my natural hair color and my perfect, non-achy joints.
If only “He” had struggled walking in the water or commented that the current is really strong, or just asked “do you need some help”—like one capable person to another capable person.  When he approached with his gentle suggestion of help, his mother would have been proud, but I felt worse.

So, I am making a pledge to all the elderly friends, relatives and strangers in my life.  I will never offer to help you again. Alright, I am not going to pledge that because obviously anyone could need help at any time, and I should always be willing to help.  What I will pledge, however, is that the next time I am with you and I think you need assistance, I will first ask: "Do you need some help?"  And I will ask only after it is really apparent that you need the assistance.  No more hopping out of my seat as soon as you walk into the room, no more "here let me get that for you" when you have already bent over to pick up the pencil, and no more helpful suggestions about magnifying glasses or hearing aids. From now on, I will treat you like I want to be treated.    

We really loved the canoe trip and plan on doing it again.